I chose a rather unconventional path of becoming a step parent at the age of 22. I distinctly remember my family wondering aloud if I'd lost my young and feeble mind. Brandon sometimes says you can't know what you're signing up for until much later and sometimes I agree with that but other times, most times really, it's just as I though it would be.
I was given a step mom at 16. I remember being terrified to meet her, terrified of the "control" she'd have over my life and terrified that she wouldn't like me even a little bit. I was lucky enough to get someone who is an expert in unconditional love. 16 is a scary age in every sense of the word. I was stubborn and rebellious in my own small way. I was irrational and still broken hearted at the enormous life change. But she loved me anyway and that is the only reason I became a step mom so confidently. I had a great teacher. My step mom Julie, has undoubtedly been a mother to me. But it's much more than that to me now...
Spring Break is coming up and I will be with my own step kids for an entire week! Our time together is so limited and can sometimes be exhausting to manage for everyone including the children. It always includes a lot of traveling and there is always an adjustment period while they are transitioning from one household to another very different one. But these are the moments when I feel most whole, when I feel that the work I am doing is directly contributed to the people that I love. And that is my life's goal.
To me being a step mom means more love than you anticipated but it also means a harsh and definite degree of detachment... It's holidays that mean more than others... It's personal growth on a level previously inconceivable...
Being a step mom is one of the most rewarding things I've ever done with my life and it has also been one of the most difficult. Though it has been a short time I can confidently look back and say I absolutely made the right choice.
XOXO
Miranda
P.S. I'd love to hear your thoughts and personal experiences about blended families!
To me being a step mom means more love than you anticipated but it also means a harsh and definite degree of detachment... It's holidays that mean more than others... It's personal growth on a level previously inconceivable...
Being a step mom is one of the most rewarding things I've ever done with my life and it has also been one of the most difficult. Though it has been a short time I can confidently look back and say I absolutely made the right choice.
XOXO
Miranda
P.S. I'd love to hear your thoughts and personal experiences about blended families!
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